i try to do the same as in focus on L as its his and i tradisions of christmass we now build. I want him to have good memories of the holiday session as so many people have so much baggie around christmass, if i can shape that for him i hope to do it in a positive way.

I have my pain of people a long time gone and absent people a short time gone, i grive when he brings this up with me and explaine ina kind way the best i can. I do not instigate it with him. In short if he has something to say i listen and deal with it when he didn't i left it and din't let anyone bother him.

christmass eve was a hard time for L he had a flood of memories si i delt with that and i was a bit sad and lonlie like yourself but i had companie and present to wrapp, so i dune that and was happie for surprise visite that night. I think i popped into heer to see how every one else was too.

your frend sounds fun and wise. Perhapps being and not forcing but being open to in its owen time will bring you the grace you deserve and desire.

you know something, thanks for giving me regulare wee compliments its very kind of you and i belive you genuinlie do se the good in people and even me lol. Thats a gift in itself and quite rare. oh they also pick me up at the srtangest of time.

I decided to do something nice the week before christmass for 2 people, but stuff got in the way and i could't mange i just relizing that a sillie doubt bout something stands in my way to do that thing i was gonna do before christmass and i waiting on one situasion to change. Si i just deciding to do it anyway as soon as i can and i sure it be ok.

their thats a nice end to the day, good bit of inspirasion, thanks for that.
Its just your givning of verbal stuff without fear thats my inspirasion