Oh MustangGal....I'm so sorry that your family is trying to manipulate you into joining them in their unhealthy enabling ...I know that it hurts but you have to know that their actions and feelings toward you are more from a place of illness in their own hearts/souls. You need to have balance from other sources of love and healing (like the wonderful women here)to armor you against their onslaughts.

I know how difficult it is for me to visit my family of origin even only once a year or so...I usually deal with depression for a day or two after being in that toxic environment. Blessings to you!