EW...I've spent the last twenty minutes reading this forum from start to finish...What I've 'seen' in the readings of all the posts from all the women here is a gathering of arms that stretched around the world to embrace another woman who was in such pain. EW, you began with sorrow, with sadness, then shock, then anger, then resentment, then hopelessness, then dispair. I could feel every emotion you displayed through your words and with each additional response I felt a coming together that is usually not felt in ones family...only here have I ever felt/seen this kind of support for anyone in pain such as this and others. This is a place to find peace and those who speak from experience or who simply wish to comfort are truly the wind of hope beneath the wings of dispair.
EW, I am so happy to hear that the course your son, DIL and little A are on is slowly being less crooked and troubled. They're trying and you're included and A is happy, again. You are the most perfect example for your granddaughter about never giving up. Look at what you went through with your husband long, long agao. I remember the struggles you fought through and the strength that it took to make it through. You are probably my biggest hero and my greatest inspiration of hope. In a private message to you about something I'm going through, you gave me wise advice and it comes from your own experience and wisdom. It comes from a woman who never gives up even at the darkest of times...you, my dear friend, have a strength that is unshakable and whoever is lucky enough to have you love them...well, all I can say is I can understand why little A responded the way she did at being pulled away from you. My God, woman, do you understand truly how special you are to all of us? How much we need you in our lives? And how by the responses from these awesome women here, I would not have been surprised to hear that all of them had boarded a plane to Germany to fight on your behalf. What a sight that would be, eh?
I certainly don't have any advice to give on this subject...there's nothing I could say that would be better than what's been said...what's comforting to know is that the outpouring of support and love on this site is like nothing I've ever witnessed ever in my life and I dare say will ever see anywhere else.
Give that darling child a hug for me and then put your arms around yourself and sqeeze once for me to you...and keep holding that beautiful, strong chin of yours high. Keep it high so you can continue to teach little A how to handle life when it gets rough...she's learning from the best teacher she could possible have...her Oma. No one will ever take your place in her heart...no one.
Take care, sweetheart.