DJ,
In answer to your questions:
I belong to two sites, this and one that is invitation only for those in the entertainment industry. I check in often in the other forum to talk to friends and to debate issues we face and issues affecting the world. Many performers are well read, even published and have a first hand view of the world, as I like to think I do.

I have NEVER been censored, scolded or moderated on that site and I've been a member for over 8 years.

Here, I have been scolded, told to do this or that with my posts, asked not to do this or that and PMed more often in this way than I would have imagined I ever would be.

My honest feelings? I feel the scoldings have been unfair, stifling and unneeded. I feel I know how to show decorum and my little spats with those on this site have mostly been defending myself from a "regular," who has decided to insult me.

I have felt "ganged up on," in the past and have left for a breather and not returned but for those who have emailed me asking me to come back.

I dislike, to answer your question, being scolded or told what to do with my posts when I do not call people names, and when I am only defending myself. I dislike the clique I find on this forum.

That said, there are many lovely women here on this forum. They keep me here and I find them interesting even if they do not post often. They are worth the scolding, ( and the PM's do read like scoldings,) and other hassles I have encountered.

This site is great for talking to women of your age about things that happen to all of us but for me, the experiences I have that are different from the status quo are not open for discussion because when I have brought them up, they have been ignored, even insulted.

I am only being honest here because I believe being honest will bring us to understandings we don't have. Again, the site is worth it in many ways. I beleive Dotsie and her interviews are a good reason to join her organization and I think she shows an open mind in many ways so I know the owner, at least, is a person who is trying.

As to your study, I am open to all those who wish to study and understand how people relate. I feel that if we related better in this country and were less afraid of those different from us we could find more peace in the US. There is too much separation and a forum can re-enforce separation if it is not careful to include any and all comers. I don't wish to belong to a forum that is closed to new ideas and discussions.

This is just me, and I'm doing my best to answer your questions because I chose to. Again, I am all for open communication.

I should say that I hold no personal annomosity towards those who have disagreed with me or even called me names. I pity them to be truthful. It's a sad day when one is reduced to bullying and name calling to try to win a discussion. It tells me that that induvidual has personal issues that have nothing to do with me.

Best to you, DJ, and good luck on your study. We should all study all that we can.

Dancer