Dotsie, I think that is a compliment to your parenting. You have given your children enough identity for them to feel comfortable being "just" Americans, without having any further desire to seek their birth roots. And what a wonderful father Ross is to take his daughter to Hawaii. That's something she will never ever forget as long as she lives.

I'm so touched that you all understand that I'm pretty mixed up. Thank you for letting me know, JJ, Sandpiper, Dotsie and Orchid.

It feels so good to vent here. I can recommend it to all of you. Doesn't matter what's eating at you…this is a healing place.

Oh and Orchid, your last post made me blush. Thank you.
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As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.
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