Mama Red, I'm glad issues are being discussed in your home and moved forward in a positive direction.

I can also be over-analytical to the point of wallowing. My best coping technique? Saying STOP IT! out loud and physically moving my carcass somewhere else. Sometimes you have to break out of the rut, and thinking about ...what to think about... is counter-productive. You'll just think more about why you have to think about something else which you're still stuck in. Physical/vocal action breaks you out.

It's like sitting in a chair and thinking about how you need to turn the light on, 10,000 ways to turn the light on, maybe if you had better reading glasses? -- when all you have to do is 1. relocate carcass; and 2. flip switch.

Seriously -- you're really doing well in all this, considering. We're all proud of you, and relieved that the worst possible scenario -- has not been. Continued blessings.