Hej mama red.. you´re kinda all over the place here that´s cool..it´s just that it´s difficult to put it all together..probably my little brain at this point in time..if he´s thinking divorce..I think you should see the red flags waving in your face..but then in another thread you mention that he wants to give it a try..he has seen the light..and, I believe, that this revelation came after his divorce thoughts..just trying to put it together for me and for you..girl, he might be playing you..don´t loose track of what YOU YOURSELF want out of life and a relationship.

We women seem to hang on to every word that the man says..and don´t seem to hang on to what we want and dream of..we don´t see the signs..written on the wall..very often the man says what he actually means..but we don´t hear him...because we sooo want a loving, maybe eutopian relationship. My humble advice to you is..watch the signs..the true signs..HEAR what he is saying..

BUT..these are my humble thoughts only..and nothing else. OK?

Read your different threads..you think differently in each of them..very interesting..hmm..

It took me about 15yrs to divorce my husband..after 32yrs of marriage..5 kids and the death of our oldest when she was 11..so I am no expert or perfect lady..but would perhaps like to give you the benefit of my many years of pain and submission to something I didn´t really believe in..SEE THE BARE TRUTH.whatever it is for you..Listen to what he is saying..men are very pragmatic..they actually say what they mean ..don´t listen to your dreams and wants..HEAR EVERYTHING he is saying..there is truth there. Or so I think and I am not all knowing, by any means..seriously.

All my love