I'm another that has been reading, but not responding... simply because I absolutely don't know what to say. I won't go into why. It's so complicated and a bit close to home. But, I do realize that one of the most beautiful people I've ever met in cyberspace is going through what has to be one of the most ripping experiences.
I want to say 'this is for the best,' knowing it might not be. I want to say 'scream, cry, hit, scratch, etc.,' knowing that will change nothing, nor help you get on with it. My first instinct was to say, show him just how wonderful you can be without him, but that's setting up a vindictive hurt for another human being... and, being one who believes in the
'what goes around, comes around' philosophy, I wouldn't want you, MR, to place yourself in the path of a karmatic boomerang.
I want to scream with and for you, honestly. I've been trying to stay in 'perfect' for so long, I need a good scream. Maybe we can have a screaming party - it probably wouldn't be the first of its kind.
For all the kind thoughts and encouraging words you've sent my way, Mama Red, know that I wish I could take every bit of the pain out of this situation for you. Don't forget, too, that Houston has a healthy job market.