Just so its clear I am going nowhere unless asked to leave. I love it here and all of you, even the ones who disagree with me or what I say. It is free speech won by all the men and women who died to preserve it for us all. If I can, I will continue to try to enrich the lives of those here I love in whatever way I can. It makes me feel good to help. I came into this discussion because I was not aware of any problems and was surprised by the emails I was getting.

I am here more than most, depicted by my 13,725 posts. I was trying to defuse the situation and all I managed to do was worsen it and become the fall guy, AS USUAL!!! OH well, someome has to be it I guess. Considering what I am living with now, sorry but this is a cake walk for me ladies...

Eagle and others here, what I did and do is more pleasure for me than anyone else will ever know, but thanks for remembering it. Lordy, I need a cookie!!!

There is no reason why we cannot have "conversations" that promote altruisim and affirm our thoughts, ideas, beliefs, feelings, etc., and where not all are right nor wrong.

Yet, I know those who are quick to blame. Therefore, I agree if one were not to agree or appreciate a particular matter to either 1. ignore and don't visit that particular subject matter, or 2. if one does disagree and comment as such with honesty and personal fervor, then please do not attack them for having done so.

Also, one can simply "ignore" a user.

Don't judge someone unless you know your story.

"Judge not, that ye be not judged" (Matt. 7: 1). In verse 2-5 it is evident that v. 1 is referring to hypocritical judgment. The lesson is plain, you cannot judge another for his/her sin if you are guilty of the same sin.

I think airing out our complaints has brought us all closer together. It feels fresh and warm here now.

I thought again about my statement on the sales thread. Maybe that wasn’t quite right of me. I know many of you have sold here because of that thread. So just ignore little old me and my petty gripe. Don’t mean nuttin’ anyhow.

Do you all feel better too? I feel like we have just let the sunshine in!

Chatty with great respect and love

trying to disfuse a situation is fine in some instances but when several women feel there has been an issue that is of concern then perhaps it should be addressed.

I post again due to seeing that Humlan who has so much to content with posts so lovingly..
but the fact that a discussion trying to clear a situation gets more of the same old same old is disappointing .

you say if a person is not happy here then they wont be happy anywhere.
I disagree.
I have happiness in many areas of my life...and may be saddened should I loose contact with some of the others
but would see the process as experience and trust that the Universe will provide as it has in the past other
opportunities to engage in.
Mountain ash

I am at a loss for words. I missed a lot by not being here from three something yesterday until now. Is it fair to say that everyone has shared what's on their mind about the purpose for this forum? If you visit other forums at this very moment, you will see the purpose of BWS in full swing. I hope that's what we choose to do. I'm sorry some have been hurt by this post. The intention was to get us back to peaceful, thoughtful communicating. I hope that's what continues to take place in other topics.

This thread reminds me of something I learned through years of therapy...that introspection is crucial - to a point. But there always seems to come a time when the focus has to turn outward again, or I become too totally immersed in self and unable to see anything else clearly enough for that introspection to be of any value.

I think this thread has been crucial. But I'm wondering if it's had its moment and its say, and if we're getting to the point where we're just going to end up, as Chatty says, beating a dead horse. I think it's clear that most of us here (I'm basing it on all the PM's and emails I've been receiving over the past few days) want harmony, respect and that spirit of generous caring that so many of us give and receive and want to continue nurturing here. That never means having to give up one's opinions or perspectives or rights to be all that we are individually, but perhaps finding ways to discuss our diversity so that others can learn through the exchange instead of feeling attacked for believing what they believe.

I'm heartsick that people have been hurt here, particularly in this thread which set out to address the problem of people being hurt. And I'm sorry, not for participating, but for making anyone, particularly Chatty, feel attacked or unheard.

For me personally, I would also like to sign out of this thread and go back into the other forums and start "practising what I preach" by being the kind, caring listener for others that so many here have been for me. Kindness begets kindness...if enough of us practise kindness, respect and generosity of caring again, that's hopefully what BWS will become again.

Amen to that...I'm here for the long haul, I guess. I love you all too much! And besides, the holidays are on our doorsteps. Let's have fun, enjoy each other's company and carry on!

Thanks ladies. This post will be closed at the end of today.

Well, I just wanted to tell you all I was so upset by all of you being so upset, I made a dozen chocolate, fudge & nut cookies and ate them all with ice cold milk, so there!!! But I am paying the price today however as my jeans don't want to zip...Whoa is me! Love to you all and a huge HUG!

I like your cure all better, Chatty. I've been just eating antacids by the bottles full.