Dotsie,

I actually think there are some advantages to meeting a mate online. You can look at their profiles and just delete those that don't fit. You can "meet' many men without having to go through failed dates. It's not very different to blind dates.

I think the fact that I spoke to my husband for 5 weeks on the phone, helped me in getting to know him without the physical aspect getting in the way and being a distraction. We HAD to talk/communicate. If you are not desperate for a relationship (which is why I think it's so important to find yourself first)then you can listen closely to what they say and be more discerning. Obviously if you are desperate, you may only hear what you want to hear and that can be dangerous.