I can really relate to your post. You really have taken care of yourself. I have been divorced for 16 years, had one long-term relationship and a few very short ones. The longer I am alone, the more I know what is important to me in a relationship.

I finished my college degree while going through my divorce, and I think this kept me from going off the deep end. I am so proud of the life I have made for myself (a lot of luck and good friends here, too), but it has taken quite a while to get to this point. I do cherish my alone time, and usually do not feel "lonely". I felt so lonely the last few years of my marriage, but didn't realize it until I was divorced. I spend a lot of time with men (and some great single women), hiking, cycling and kayaking. We have a lot of fun, but most of them are married, way too young, not interested in me or I in them. Two of the guys I hike and cycle with are divorced, on multiple dating websites with different profiles and lies about their age and other things (they don't know I know this), have no "clue" what real intimacy is (they are in their 50's and 60's). I have spend a lot of time on my emotional, physical and mental wellbeing, and if I meet a man doing what I love who is also at that point, I would be open to the possibilities. I would love to have a companion such as this to share life with. In the meantime, I never would have dreamed that my life could be so rich.