I put my foot down. My soon to be 21 nephew is a bum. He dropped out of HS, loses jobs, wrecks cars, sleeps around, lies, spent his trust fund in 3 mths w/ nothing to show (about $20K plus $3-$4K savings bonds), drugs, smokes, foul mouthed, good for nothing you know what! I've 'hired' him to help me out with house chores, i.e., lawn, repairs, etc. Yet, he does a half-hearted job and curses throughout the entire ordeal. My parents (mother and step-father) have urged me to 'hire' him for this and that whenever he's between jobs, yet it always causes an argument and I'm the one at fault, not his sorry butt.

He lives with some gal with kids in the boon docks - not certain if he's working. Has been a 'person of interest' by the GA & SC police. Spent 100+ days in jail b/d he did not have $ to pay speeding tickets. Gawd, got some other gal pregnant and she does not want him in her life - my mother spend hundreds on clothes for her and the baby (no parternity test, so not certain if actually his or not).

My parents get suckered into everything he says. Even though he's stolen money, phones, hocked their possessions, etc. They cater to his whims.

I hate this. And I'm the bad guy (gal). No, his rearing was not that great. His mother (my sister) has 4 children by 4 different men. Until about 2 years ago she's never held a steady job (she's 39). She's been off/on drugs (even begged me for $10,000 for drugs and then blamed me for gawd knows what and my family held it against me!). She and her son can do no wrong.

I put my foot down. They do not reciprocate any appreciation. They are leeches. Blood or not, they are out of my will and I refuse to give them Christmas or Birthday gifts/money. My parents will hold this against me, yet enough is enough. My sister, nephew and parents make fun of me, whatever I do is wrong or stupid. At family gatherings, they mock me.

I'm the one who was at the hospital when step-father admitted several times this year for congested heart failure. I'm the one who fretted. My nephew visited maybe 2X and muttered under his breath with foul language. My sister was a no show. But, I was never thanked. My parents thanked their neighbors and gossiped about me to them.

I do what I think is right, and this is right. I know it, I feel it, yet why do I question myself?

(I just need a little support, if ya'll don't mind b/c of the above I find myself questioning my reasons - which I know are right, yet my family is so very selfish about this).