My grandson is staying with his Dad (in another province) for the summer. D is 8 yrs old.

When D is with his Mom (my daughter), I call them every day. Yesterday, my birthday, I called and the step-mother-from hell, answered the phone. She kept saying hello, hello, like she couldn't hear me.

I called D's Dad at work and he said to call the cell number, they were having problems with their phone. I said "same as last year at the same time, huh"...(convenient).

Anyway....I called the cell, asked for D and she said Oh, he's not here. I said "Well, who is he with? (no one else he could be with. He was there according to his Dad.) She said, "None of your business." Ignoring that comment,I said "Well, when can I call back later?" She said, Never on MY cellphone.

I called D's Dad back and said I want to talk to my grandson and he just hung up on me. I called back and left this message. If I don't speak to my granson today or tomorrow, I am personally going to take a flight to VISIT him.


How can he be so p*ssywhipped as to not think about his own son over a spiteful woman who has no respect for D's and my relationship. Apparently neither does he, I guess.

What does this woman have against me? Nothing, except that I'm her boyfriend's X's Mother.

My daughter has had nothing only problems with her X since 'she' came into the picture 2 yrs ago. Anonymous threatening calls, emails etc. And 'he' won't believe any of it...more on this later as daughter is tracing calls, emails etc....same as last year.

When my daughter calls to talk to D, she answers the phone, waits a minute and hangs up. A few minutes later she calls my daughters house and hangs up when she answers it..(to have a record of calling, I guess) My daughter has talked to her son 2 times in a few weeks and 'she' tells him....It's time to go D, get off the phone after about a minute. My daughter is meeting with her lawyer later this week.
I swear to God, I feel like I could choke this woman, she has to be one unhappy son of a....

All of this aside, my real concern is this. How is my grand-son being treated while his Dad is at work. We all know how women like this can be. If they are hateful to D's Mom and Grandmom, how will she treat him? She has a boy of her own who is a few years older than D. Oh my, I am at my wits end with worry.

I haven't called today. Mr. Chick said, don't call. Wait til D gets home in a few weeks. She may take it out on him if I bother her again. What do you all think.
Please pray that he will be treated right.

Thanks for listening. Amazing how writing here makes one feel a little better.

Breathe.....

Ooooh, I'm so angry I could spit (I never spit, but I could over this). I just don't get it either, Chick. What a sad, tragic, horrible game this woman is playing, and I'm with you, being so concerned as to how she's treating your grandson while his Dad's at work. You didn't ask, but I'm adding your grandson and this situation to my prayer list...and you too. Oooooh, these kinds of people just don't make any sense at all, do they!!!! What can she possibly be getting out of behaving so nastily!

Breathing here too...

PS I love your new avatar!

Get the number Chick and call him at school. Tell them you're his grandmother and need to speak to him and its long distance. This women needs a good swift kick in the behind or punch in the nose...

Chick, any chance of questioning him when he returns home to Mom? Maybe get some evidence or at least put your mind to ease about his treatment while he was there?

Children are so honest. I know you are fit to be tied. I pray that you find a solution!

HOw old is the child?

At this time, best to wait until D gets home. You're respecting him as the father. It's difficult to do much when it's all by phone..

And to express concern to your daughter..to be done carefully. She might be worried already. And to hear from you adds more emotional turmoil and stress on her as mother.

Write postcards...
keep up some contact.
Tell them to allow time when calls are accepted.Come out into the open to the people who are doing this.Dont ask..Tell.

Chick, I'd be as upset as you. Is there a way where you can furnish your grandson his own cellphone? That way, you can contact him without having to go through that wicked woman and that hen-pecked wicked ex SIL. Must not let them know he's got it though.

Thanks everyone for your replies. D is 8 and he is not in school until September. The only contact is by landline which they say isn't working and her cell phone which she won't allow me to call on.

If D tells his Mom anything that is related to him being ill treated, she will not hesitate to take legal action.

Next year when he goes, I am going to get him his own cell phone so I can call him whenever I want. I can't get it to him now as he is in Canada.

I know he's wondering why he hasn't heard from me.

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Next year when he goes, I am going to get him his own cell phone so I can call him whenever I want.

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That's exactly what I would've suggested. Maybe load some pre-paid minutes as well.

I am so sorry Chick. So sorry. It never ceases to amaze me how mean some people can be. My hunch is your grandson is okay, but his dad! boy he sounds henpicked from the word go.

Yes, a cell phone is in order.