Here's and update on how things are going with the kids.
They've had to move out of their house as they can't pay their mortgage with both of them out of work and SIL not able to do anything for 6 months. That's a long time to not be able to pay your mortgage.
And, the person holding the mortgage is SIL's mother. And, she's the person who told them they had to move out. She's been very mean and selfish and very controlling about the whole situation and the stress on the kids was overwhelming. She told them to either move to my house or move to my daughter's dad's (my ex's). If we had the room, I would have let them move in with me in a heartbeat. But, we didn't.
We didn't have the $$ to pay their mortgage either. Not for 6 months. We found out that SIL's mother had told her side of the family that everything was ok and that kids didn't need anything. We only found this out just now.
The kids had nowhere to go, but to my ex's. Nearly 2000 miles away in Arizona. Tucson, to be exact. They left right before Labor Day. They wanted to be gone before Gustav hit. I've been grieving ever since.
But, they promised me it wouldn't be a permanent move. Just temporary. My ex and his wife are going to help them get back on their feet. Help SIL heal and give him the 6 months he needs to get his brain back from being "mush" in a stress free environment. My daughter is going to get a job, part time at first then they're going to save money (ex and wife are going to let them live there rent and board free) until they have enough to come back. Not back to SIL's mother.
That situation is over. She is going to sell the house. If she can considering the market.
I want to publicly thank Chatty for doing all she did for my granddaughter and daughter. She is a true angel sent from heaven.
If you want to read how I've done through my grieving process I blogged about it at
http://www.vickimtaylor.com/blogsThank you all for your support and kindness and prayers through all of this. I miss my daughter and granddaughter so much, my heart breaks to think about it.