Bekya, I've been single for a long time, 15 years, but I remember the pain. The one thing I learned is that most men don't get it until they experience the loss. If a husband turns his back on you, and you want him back, the worst thing you can do is try to keep him. (I learned this the hard way). He needs to feel the loss. I would file for divorce and move on, get some support, such as a divorce recovery group, etc. After he sees that you are on your own 2 feet, feeling good about yourself, getting a life (you are used to being on your own anyway I bet) there is a chance he will come back. And if he doesn't you will be stronger and will be able to handle it. I've heard this theory discussed by Dr. James Dodson.

My experience has been that the crappier you treat them, the better they like it.

I'm sorry you have to go through this pain.

Daisygirl