No, ya'll I don't mind anyone say hey...that's why we love these forums.
Daisygirl...I'm sorry for how you were treated by your husband and neglected by your son. There's so many dynamics in families and step-families.
I've learned one thing...you cannot force anyone to do the right thing or love you, including a child. I have a dear best friend who hasn't seen her son for 15 years. She told her son on one occasion that she didn't like something her daughter-in-law did and from that moment he turned his back on her. She has 2 grandchildren she's never seen and he lives in the same town. She said she wouldn't know them if she bumped into them. That is just heartbreaking to me.
Dotsie, Larry and I are living our lives each day and enjoying the blessing we've been given. All we can do is not let the two kids come in and try to take more advantage and if they choose to be absent from this wonderful man's life, it's their loss. They are losing out on the love and support of a great Father and how sad for them that their selfishness overrides love they could be experiencing.
I'll keep you in my prayers Daisygirl that your son will change.