Oh Bonnie..you´ve got some really good thoughts and advice here..nothing more for me to add..except YOU will always be living with YOU..as your sisters have said here..and it´s so important, then..that you take care of yourself and give yourself time to heal..on so many levels,too. You´ve been thru an awful lot and you need time to recover..it´s not always easy to say no..God knows..but sometimes it is imperative..like NOW for YOU!!! You´ll be no good to anyone if you become ill again in some way due to all this unnecessary stress. I agree with everyone that your BF should SEE YOU and where you are now! You were lucky enough to get your cancer diagnosed early..but that doesn´t make you less ill! You´ve had MAJOR SURGERY and a MAJOR ILLNESS..dear dear Bonnie..your BF´s family dynamics are not YOURS..and I am saying this and I have family (my adult children,too) where the dymnamics are very f..... up with a BF of my own. But I don´t mix him into my family´s web..not practically. He may have to listen to my thoughts and worries..but he doesn´t have to be a part of it all, physically. That´s not fair to him, I think..he doesn´t have the history..the blood ties. He is welcome when he wants to be there..but otherwise, it´s ok not be there,too. And my dear..you have to take care of yourself and not go trapesing around 4hrs in a car!!!!

Ok, my 2 cents anyway..