BF and I are together almost ten years. My relationship with his two daughters have been rocky. Looks good on the surface,but their is no love lost on either side. The BF is the bigger problem. He has tried to force a relationship for years not only on me but my family. Of course it didn't succeed. They have their own mother and a very close family on that side. The added attraction is that the mother is very wealthy and indulges them constantly. BF and I do no have it, don't believe in it and dont' do it. I am all BF has. His family is very estranged.

I did suggest a dinner when she got home and of course BF didn't like that. He keeps telling me this is not about me. Well...I get that and it is her day, but man I am so far down on the family chain her, its pretty humiliating to me and BF is unsupportive. I feel like if I give in on this, it will be a lifelong pattern. Honestly, if I didn't go, I do not think the daughter would lose any sleep over it. She would just gossip about, but I don't care. More thoughts?