Hi Bonnie, sorry to hear about all you've been through, but glad you recovered and things are normalizing.

The reasons for you not attending the graduation seem plausible to me. And if they seem that way to me, they should be that way for your BF. After all he should be the loving protecting understanding person in your life. You could always push it off on your boss and say he won’t give you the time off. But frankly, a 4 hour drive for you is strenuous. Having a hysterectomy 4 months ago is not that long ago. I heard it takes at least 6 months to recover.

So stick to your guns girl. But try not to get sick over this. Be firm and calm. He has to simply accept you not going. There is really no basis here for a discussion, and don’t allow yourself to be forced into defending your decision repeatedly.