Yes, I can explain more. I appreciate that you are asking and trusting to share here. People often talk about what "happened" to them in terms of sexual assault, including incest. I say that SA doesn't just "happen" like a random fender bender on the freeway. SA, including incest, is calculated, deliberate, and forceful. SA is about the perpetrator taking power and control over a victim, using sex as a weapon and vehicle for force. Intoxication is not a reason, excuse, or explanation. Nor is mental illness. My father was an alcoholic, drug abusing paranoid schizophrenic. He molested 2 of his children that I know of, 1 I'm sure of but can't say, and a sister he hit on, or more. One cannot say, "Oh, he was mentally ill, he did not know what he was doing." Actually his mental illness served him in clever manipulation of his victims. In your experience(s) may I ask what situation that he was in that you are referring to? Feel free to email me. Also, Dotsie has posted the teleseminar on the front page so you can click and here the interview via your computer. Meredith, thank you so much for jumping in here. PL