I'm not sure it's a boy/girl or mom/son thing -- just a "personal" thing -- something inside him between him and his God -- and perhaps it's just not something he could put in words even if he wanted too. My youngest and I haven't discussed the night his brother died -- I worry about it and want to discuss it with him -- wonder what he's thinking now -- but I don't think he's ready to talk about it yet -- perhaps he never will be ---

He knows what you're trying to say -- and that you love him -- it's something he will remember for the rest of his life -- and I think has and will continue to change his life in some way --

may i suggest that you just let him know that you trust him -- and perhaps in the years to come you two will have this conversation --