My daughter and her in laws are going through something like this. I'll call this girl Shirley. Shirley has had two children out of wedlock and has dumped them on her parents. She takes off, comes home and sobers and cleans up, then she takes off again. Then she got Hepatitis C from dirty needles. Stayed home for a while and was in treatment for the illness but sick as a dog. I guess she decided she's going to die anyway so she left again and they haven't seen her.

My daughter lives across the street from this drama and has had a lot of things stolen by her sister in law. When I visited, I had to take my jewelry in my purse so she wouldn't steal it. She did steal some of my clothes.

There is nothing you can do to make Mom stop what she's doing. My daughter tried for years to get Shirley's parents to stop enabling her. There is always the worry that if they don't help, she'll get into more trouble or die somehow and they will have to live with THAT guilt the rest of their lives. It's a no win situation that you're probably going to have to back away from for your own sanity.