I should correct what I said about the desperate part. I don't think people who go to singles events are desperate. What I meant to say is that some men, sometimes the good ones, think they will seem desperate so they stay away from these events.

I've been to some singles events and did not like them. I met some really nice women there but no men. At least not any that I was interested in.

Your right, some married women are very lucky, but the grass is not always greener on the other side.

When I was married it was pure hell on many occasions. I longed to be single and now I am.

I would say the married women that are really happy and are in a good marriage based on respect, yes they are the lucky ones. But you can be happy and single, it's all how you look at it.

It is very difficult to meet men when you are over 40, at least for some. I have found it difficult but others I know have not. I'm very picky as I have trust issues so I have put walls up.

My current guy knows me well and has managed to break down the walls and that is because we have a history.

Kate