We had an old country doctor that used to make house calls.
And he said once, "Women have more sex drive than men."
Don't know if he was right? But that's what he said. He doctored before the field of medicine became so specialized.
Those ole General Practitioners would cure any ailment anybody had. Now one specialist sends you to another specialist! And back and forth you go...

Hmm..I believe we do..we woman only go about it in a different way...

humlan,
After reading your reply, I think I gave the wrong impression. All I was saying is that what I saw when overseas was more openness than what I see here. I'm not
judging it. And the TV thing was uncomfortable because my
kid was there and it was a XXXXXXX ya know? I was in the country of Holland. We were at a stayover. Perhaps, you made love on the first date. That's cool. But with all the illnesses out there, isn't it a little risky? Maybe I'm the chicken here. I don't know! But why do people have to
make out in the open? Isn't privacy better? Folks' can do whatever they want without others gawking at 'em! And I'll bet the ratio between female rapists and male rapists, leans towards the guys and murderers too??? So you're a sexy babe! That's cool. Best of luck in all you do!!!

Thank goodness we can all share how we fill about this subject. I've amazed at the honesty. It's great to be able to see and feel through the beliefs of others... this coming from someone who likes sex, but is sexually handicapped (due to upbringing).

For years and years I sat in a church, on the front pew as the senior pastor's wife. I counseled women, led women's groups covering numerous topics and was director of Women's Ministries. I was a Baptist. Unfortunately, I had to believe one thing and ONLY one thing...sex is made for marriage...pure, monogamous. Period. The end. After 23 years of ministry, I was devastated beyond words one day to discover my husband had been having an affair with his secretary. Fast forward two horrible, black years and we had been tossed out of the church, my husband had walked out after a few months to be with "her" and I was sitting in my lawyer's office filing for divorce. I had no idea who I was, what I believed or what I would ever do in my life. Life for me had been completely wrapped around a man and his church. I spun out of control for months afterwards. I admit to being lonely, empty and seeking a warm male body. No, I'm not particularly proud of that era. I still believe that a monogamous life with a husband is the best way to go...for me, at least. But I really didn't care back then. When I met the man who is my husband now I jumped all over him the first night. Yes, he gave me lots of affection that night but refused to do "it." He says now that he saw a sadness in my eyes and he couldn't bring himself to take advantage of me. There were many others who didn't care how I felt. I refuse to take that part of my life as a total regret. Fortunately, it was short-lived because hubby married me. I thank God I've managed to find myself again and take care of who I am but I can't really judge someone else who, for whatever reason, finds themselves like that, even for a time.

Jabber..i bet i´m giving the wrong impression,too. I am not a sexy babe..i´ve been that "pig" that men are accused of being and it´s not nice, good. I hurt some good people along the way, Jabber. I am trying to live with that..ok?

I don´t know about murderers..but the rapists?..Jabber, I think that it´s harder to prove a woman as a rapist..I am serious here.

But.. i don´t want to make a big issue here..eventho i feel quite deeply about what i am saying. i am not the light hearted/sexy thing that my opionions make me out to be. i am quite serious and have thought alot about what i wrote here.

Maybe we just don´t know eachother so well, yet.

I am sorry..didn´t mean to provoke you or anyone..that´s not why I am here..

lj, you sound like the very woman to counsel someone I know... you've been there. knowing what she's been through makes me more than understanding of what you've said.

Thanks, gims. I always thought it would be an honor to help someone that's walking that road.

and ladyjane..i hear you.

lots of hugs...

Thanks Humlan, I hear you, too!