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I am still shaking my head and feeling like a fool. Such a fool..but at the time we both thought..why should we give up something so beautiful and that gives us so much..just because it´s not the "normal" thing to do?



I think that our lives are made up of a wide assortment of different passages, and while some of them might seem like strange choices further down the road, I do believe that each passage is essential for taking us to the self we're meant to become. Each person, each sharing of the road, each stretch of life is part of our tapestry, part of our becoming, part of our learning...

This part of your journey may or may not be over - but I dare to say that it WAS meant to be, and there was nothing foolish but everything wise to gain from being in this stretch of life with this man and in these circumstances.

I guess the question is whether or not this combination of person and circumstances works for or against your vision of who and where you want to be for the next leg of the journey. When you can determine what it is you need/want now in order to find/maintain well-being and positive growth, then you'll know what direction to go in to get that...and whether or not taking anyone else along will help or hinder.

But give yourself credit for getting to your here-and-now. The choices you made back then were not foolish, they were instrumental in taking you where you wanted to go and into the you you are now. And that has been a good place to be and a good person to be thus far...now you're at a crossroads where you might feel it necessary to take another road - but that doesn't make the road you're leaving any less valid and life-giving for the time you were traveling it.
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When you don't like a thing, change it.
If you can't change it, change the way you think about it.

(Maya Angelou)