Humlan, I just read this and like many, I usually need some time to ponder a big decision. I liked that Mountain Ash wondered if a move would be good for both of you...to another, possibly larger living area. Has this been discussed with R? Sometimes that brings freshness and change in a good way and the space would be welcomed. If there are other things going on inside you about the relationship then those things need to be thought through in time. Would you be more content alone at this point? A lot to think about and I'll be back to check in. Just know I'm with you all the way!
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