Compliments of Dotsie

Ever wondered how a woman's brain works?
It's finally explained here in one, easy-to-understand illustration:




Every one of those little blue balls is a thought about something that needs to be done, a decision or a problem that needs to be solved.

A man, of course, has only 2 balls and they take up all his thoughts.

hahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa....my hubby is definitely going to get this one! Very, very good one!

OMG!!!!!
AND that's only the right side!!!!!!

I was trying to explain my brain to my hubby just last night...he can't quite "get" this whole concept (much less the reality) of multi-tasking. Even when it looks like I'm just sitting on the couch watching boring TV shows with him, my brain's working on a myriad of chores, problems, solutions and various assorted activities. Then when it's time to do them, it's quick and easy, because I've already worked out the details in my head...this was a huge asset when I was computer network administrator!

(BTW, it's a long story why I DO sit there watching TV with him when there are so many other things I'd like to be doing - it's one of the few things he's ever asked of me, just to sit there and keep him company for a few hours in the evening; so for the short amount of time it involves, it's worth it - but that doesn't mean I actually WATCH the stuff!)

I'll have to show him this picture so he can see what I was trying to tell him.

Eagle, I do the same thing. When he's in the house he just wants me to sit in front of the tv in the evening with him. So, I do, but my brain is working overtime and he can't understand why.

LOL !!!

I'm multi-tasking. I'm reading this post and eating peanuts.

Tomorrow maybe I'll clean the peanut shells out from my keyboard. Or should I wait till I finish the whole bag of peanuts?

Jawjaw, I saw an earlier incarnation of this one, and I have to say -- the latest graphics are superb!

Eagle my Hubby would love me to just sit and watch TV with him too. When I do, then I have a stack of magazines to leaf through, or I’m doing some puzzle to just keep me awake. But usually I’m in my office getting things done. I get so bored with TV, and I tell him, if he wants to be with me, then he’s welcome to come to the office. I feel like my time is too precious to waste, or maybe I’m just not as a good a wife as you are. I’m afraid it’s the ladder of the two, and truthfully after reading your post yesterday, I went down and joined Hubby.

As for multitasking, I do that big time when playing golf. My mind is hardly ever on the game. Sort of weird, but hitting that dumb ball helps me sort out things in my brain. If I play a par, no one is more surprised than I am; … I thought I was in my kitchen rearranging the cabinets?!?!

Hannelore, the original request came years ago when I was working full time, taking night courses and hardly ever home. He was newly retired, so took over all the household chores, but was having difficulty adjusting to an empty house/life after 33 years of being a military firefighter/chief. He went from an endless network of social contacts to nothing at all. My heart ached for him when he finally summoned the courage to tell me how he was feeling...it opened my eyes to a not-seen-before vulnerable tenderness in him.

Spending a couple of hours watching TV with him in the evening after work was the only thing he ever made a point of asking of me in all our years together. And yet he (cheerfully) cooks, cleans the house (including bathrooms and windows), does laundry, grocery shops, vacuums, irons, and makes wonderful home-made soups for me - even now that I'm retired too. Spending that time with him involves more than watching TV - it's a commitment to a promise I made to him all those years ago to always be sure to carve out time in a busy day especially for him alone - it's the one expression of my continuing love and gratitude for him that I'm able to make no matter how sick/down/sad or fatigued I might be.

And he does make an effort to choose shows that we can both tolerate - we negotiate and compromise. Whenever he's away, though, the TV is hardly ever turned on (except for General Hospital - I'm a GH addict).

I don't think that makes me a better wife - it's a choice I make to carve out that time because it's what he needs from me...another man might not need that. God knows I'm one of the most difficult women to live with, because of my ancient insecurities, hyper sensitivity (not only emotionally but right across the board - smells, textures, tastes, household chemicals - everything!) and chronic fatigue/depression - my husband might well be the only man/person on the face of the earth who could live (cheerfully) with all of that!!!

I should not have complained about having to watch TV with him, because I realize now that it's exactly where I want to be in the evenings. But that doesn't mean my brain still won't be multi-tasking - how does one turn it off??!!

I just showed Steve the post of the woman's brain. I said JJ posted it, he said "Imagine that!" He's got your number JJ!

Sherri