I have a problem with it, too...
I use the "Active Topics" link most of the time, and have found, when I do have time to go through the "Main Index," I've missed many discussions. I can only come in now and then... sometimes days pass before I can make a visit... by the time I re-enter, it's like "WHOA, I'll never catch up"... it's very discouraging.
But, then there other times, when I can visit at will, and the forums aren't busy at all... those times, I think, "Where is everyone? I'm missing the girls something awful!"

Oh, and there are the sleepless nights....

But, don't give up, humlan, I'm another that is glad you are here!!!