Chatty, I am a little like that, but I am better. My passive-aggressive personality entered the arena of household chores. I would not ask for help, mumble under my breath, heave, sign, complain, and then, when he'd least expect it, I'd blow up with: "What's wrong with you that you can't help." He'd say, "Just ask." And it's true, all I have to do is ask. I still heave, sigh, and mumble and complain when doing housework, but I'm much more civil when asking for help. Except, this morning I picked up after him: the empty wine bottle, the empty cola can, a milk glass, a coffee cup, and sweats & jeans off the floor. He has an aversion to picking up after himself. I do think of the alternative: not having him around to pick up after. Plus, he made me shrimp scampi! L, PL