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#133853 - 12/06/07 12:00 AM
Re: Your views and experiences
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Registered: 01/21/07
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Loc: British Columbia, Canada
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I know 1 close friend, was complaining how often their shared home computer seemed to have pornographic pop-ups, etc. at unexpected moments when surfing the Internet.
I didn't have the heart to tell her ..that maybe hubby was viewing this stuff without her knowledge.
Yes, I've met her hubby...a pleasant, mild-tempered guy..whenever I visited them, etc.
The nasty stuff that's not soft, or involving children, ..is downright creepy.
Sadly Internet is just desensitizing more and more people about graphic sex because the Internet is a highly visual/graphic medium to self-publish...anything for very little money or maybe for free.
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#133855 - 12/06/07 05:39 AM
Re: Your views and experiences
[Re: jawjaw]
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Registered: 08/22/07
Posts: 1761
Loc: Southern Maine, USA
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While I wish I could talk about this, I went to bed last night thinking about this very same issue...this being a public and not closed forum. We don't need this type of attention! And it makes me feel too open and vulnerable to whomever and whatever! If it were closed, I'd talk but this is too scary! Sad, but so true.
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#133858 - 12/07/07 04:10 PM
Re: Your views and experiences
[Re: Edelweiss]
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Registered: 08/22/07
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Loc: Southern Maine, USA
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dancer, your statement "I could not understand WHY she wanted to keep him but she allowed all sorts of degradation to be visited upon her in the name of keeping her marriage." hit home very hard with me. While things are much tamer now than they'eve ever been, I also felt degraded but allowed it in the beginning "just to keep him." Yes, I know now that that's the sickest thing anyone could ever do. I know that after my 30 year marriage was over, I was not the same. I came out of a very restrictive lifestyle and went crazy like a college kid would after coming out of a too-strict home. I'm very, very ashamed of some of the things I allowed. And quite frankly, I am not over this yet. I've long since stood up for myself one thing at a time as I began to regain sanity. I don't know if most women our age can understand what I mean but it's very true. I look back in horror because I can hardly remember thinking much less anything else. I really lost myself when my marriage ended and had no idea who I was or who I was supposed to be. The p is the last of the outward problems now. In the past few months it's not happened like it used to but occasionally it comes about and I'm always so disappointed. I wonder what ever happened to me. What a life change.
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#133859 - 12/07/07 04:24 PM
Re: Your views and experiences
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Registered: 07/02/03
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Loc: Alabama
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LJ, I happened to think you are one strong and wonderful person. Be kind to yourself! That old saying, "walk a mile in my shoes" can apply here. Just because we've never experienced some of the feelings you have, like being lost after your marriage, wanting to know what to do, what to feel, do I experience THIS? Do I let go of THIS? etc., this doesn't make them any less real for you.
We don't have to experience them to know they're yours and that you lived them, experienced them, and now are questioning them. It sounds like to me you are moving on and with good feelings and hope.
Girl, taking the time out to find Jane and who Jane really is, to me...is a giant step. How brave you are to say, "I want to know Jane." You rock!
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#133860 - 12/07/07 04:31 PM
Re: Your views and experiences
[Re: ladyjane]
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Registered: 04/15/07
Posts: 2411
Loc: Arizona
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Lady Jane,You must, I think, forgive yourself! You were then, another person than you are now. You had a set of symptoms that everyone understands and you are much better now. It's not your fault.
What I mean was that I, personally, would not be able to put up with such things. It is just me, it's not about anyone else.
Yes, you are not alone, there are many women who had to escape such things as in doing so, you are a survivor, and not a victim anymore.
Please don't take anything out on yourself that resulted from someone taking advantage of you and hurting you! It's not your fault, it's not your fault!
I know that, and so do all the people out there who know there are those into this stuff that will hurt people with it.
I am myself and I have certain things I could not tolerate but it doesn't mean that I haven't been abused, I have. What happened to me was something I had to not blame myself for, and not hate myself for not leaving sooner. So must you. YOu are a good woman, Lady Jane, and one of my favorites on the forum. You, like I, live and learn.
Please be good to you, dancer9
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