I guess I would know I was all right emotionally and or mentally or spiritually if/when the time comes that I don't second guess myself. I might feel all right if I had a sense of safety and security that what I am thinking and feeling is "right on." I make a decision, then think I should have made another. I might feel all right when I don't need the validation from others that I am all right. Or when I am not so needy of reassurance that I am all right. I do know that in this point in time I am all right with God... no, that God is all right with me just as I am. So that's a part of knowing at least with The One I am all right. My Loved Ones, if that means family, is never all right, so their happiness or not, mostly not, cannot be a measure to me that I am all right. They are never happy, so it is a good thing that I don't depend on them for happiness. I look for all right in a moment. In this moment I am all right because I have feelings of gratefulness and love.