Well dancer, I have a similar problem. In some workplaces I am perceived as a bit aloof, distant and sometimes, a little strong/aggressive in style. I have tried to carefully reveal personal parts of me to humanize myself abit ...and also to give praise to others. The latter is something I have to consciously work at. Also sometimes, I might have to shut up ..and just listen.

Maybe similar thing for you, ...more credit, praise to others. However, there are some people who just have not had the exposure like you have where you are by training and your career, have become an outgoing, a more "public" figure than others.

As for jealousies from other women,...perhaps if I could provide my spin, as a woman who is not nature outstandingly attractive, never have been and never will be. Just lucky, to be born petite.

I cannot become jealous of other women because:

*I have always had great relatonships with my sisters, some of whom are noticeably attractive. They are all intelligent and gifted. This paves the way to all relationships with other girls and women later on through life. We never fought over looks nor over fashion. I firmly believe,a good relationship with same sex friends, begins sometimes in life, from home first.

*One of my closest friends for about 20 years...was a beauty queen contestant. She did enter Miss Canada pageant. She was also a genuinely pleasant person with no axe to grind and intelligent. She worked hard to maintain academic excellence...and also carried a waitressing job while she was in school. She eventually got her Master's degree in pharmacology and moved into a management position for a pharmaceutical giant. So through her, I learned how "normal" and other problems of women who are very attractive but also highly intelligent.

She and I have had a falling out over something totally different. But still, as a result of this friendship I had, I never considered attractive or gifted women as a threat. I knew my own strengths after all, and what I could bring to the table.

I feel sorry for some women who still in their mid-years and onward, have huge insecurities about themselves that make them jealous of some other women. Such an incredible drain of energy and time.

My only comment, you might have to sit back on certain occasions and let others vent/come forward. But my gut feeling, tells me that you have tried to do this already.