Hannelore, my thoughts and prayers are with you, I have been down that road sweetie. I know it is hard on us to have to place our parents in assisted living or nursing homes, but please keep in mind how hard it is on them and have a lot of love and patience. My MIL went through and extremely bad period of depression when she broke her hip and was incapacitated for quite a while. She was always very independent, "the stubborn old german woman" as we sometimes called her, did not like having to be taken care of. It really hurt her pride. It's so hard for them to accept being in that position. We're here for you and wish you the best.
Gerri