Kate,
My two sons were "good," boys. They got "A's." they stayed out of trouble, they never once got in trouble. They are kind and achievers, but Kate, raising THEM was HARD!! You had the hardest job I can think of, a heart breaking job that must have often had NO thanks! You pulled this one off and I am impressed beyond belief! I have worked with younger people throughout my dance career. I've, through the theater, met parents whose children were acting out, (no one can act out like an artist, ask me!) Those kids were messing their lives up one after the other at times, drugs, quitting school, trying to keep their roll in the theater but quitting everything else to be "stars," until I had to replace them in their rolls.

Those parents blew it. They were rude and insulting when the talked about their children, they told others they did not care what happened to their sons and daughters and locked the door not like you, but without a second thought and went on vacation! I saw them ruin their relationship with their children over and over again. When their child grew up and was finally straight, the child wanted nothing to do with them, and MEANT it! You have salvaged a life knowing your child! That is something and I know it. Perhaps it is from knowing too many who ruined their lives from addictions, famous people, etc, that people gave up on who turned their lives around. I can count them and need more fingers! Eric Clapton, Dr. John, Elton John, and more and more. Those who just abused them before they got straight, they do not speak to. You did it, you should be proud and never forget that you are special to have turned this around this way. His sobriety is not what is the important thing here with regard to YOU, for YOU, it is your patience and knowing some how, when to say "no," and when to say "yes."
You did good.
dancer