Hi founderhervoice

I've been MIA this summer and just found this thread. Too much traveling. But anyway...

I've been divorced about 10 years and had an 11 year old son still at home and experienced second hand some of his heartache.

I learned that the court system sucks big time. They don't care about children's well being but seem to treat kids as parental property. We had to attend "divorce classes" during which I heard all sorts of horror stories -- like when a woman had to allow her ex to have visitation when he was sleeping with different women every night and using drugs. If a spouse complains then sometimes the judge will take away custody just to be punitive.

What I gathered was that in Maryland a 12 year old can say who he wants to live with, and can also not be forced into visitation.

My son got in some trouble and I got him into counseling. At some point the counselor told my ex that he needed to pay more attention to his son. Then my ex wanted to fire the counselor because he felt blameless.