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#123395 - 07/24/07 12:43 AM
Re: Life after divorce
[Re: Edelweiss]
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Loc: Colorado
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Dear Hannelore,
I too am a strong believer in commitment and I applaud both your tenacity and resolve. I know how difficult it can be to remain steadfast and hopeful through the rough times. You sound realistic in your evaluation of what’s taking place in your home right now; with such a good head on your shoulders you will know what to do if and when the time comes for decision making, and then you will have the peace of mind that comes with knowing that you have pulled out all the stops and given it your best shot, one way or another.
I noticed that you are an American living in Germany. Do you have any kind of a local support network there?
Sending you a big virtual hug,
Foundhervoice-atlast
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#123399 - 07/25/07 06:37 AM
Re: Life after divorce
[Re: Edelweiss]
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Registered: 11/24/06
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Loc: Belfast/Northern Ireland
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everie third marrage ending in divorces is the same statistick used over heer as well HL, and their is a lot of counsellers to choise from and a good few commited to marrige or relashionship councelling. I don't know how readilie they are used but by non religouse people as they are all linked to a religouse communitie in some sape or form, maybee it puts some people off and attracts others. One would imagine their be a lot more councelloers within either of the cities you live neer. I am glade that things have stabilised for you right now, the gchild might be a bonding distraction long enough for you both to become affectionate enough with each other in order to do or continue the counseeling and growing together process you were doing.
back to that question of foundhervoice at last and dealing with dependent children and ex's. "What observations/helpful advice do y'all have post-divorce for women who are dealing with uncooperative ex-spouses regarding dependent children? Have your views changed over time?"
in my experinces its a bleeding nightmare and those that say they care bout the child (emotional, mental, physical) wellfaire don't. I think its a disgrace and a big shame on the allegide adult in the cinario.
I onlie kn0w a few well maybee in truth onlie one couple that had anytype of positive relashionship/effect in relation to the kids. Just the one couple, they din't like eacjh other and weer hurt by the break-up but both put the kids wellfaire first.....please tell me i am unusule in onlie knowing one couple who have managed the above succesfullie??please!!
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#123401 - 07/27/07 01:24 PM
Re: Life after divorce
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Hi ladies,
My ears were ringing. LOL.
I pop in almost every day, to read what's going on - but don't have a ton to say.
My time is really being spent trying to figure out how to make my "send out cards" business - a business (v.s. a hobby)that will support me.
I'm doing pretty well, when you consider I was with the same man for 23 yeas of my 41 year life. All I've known is how to be a married woman.
I grieve the loss of "what I thought I had", and the destruction of my family.
My daughter is on her own at 18, trying to make sense of the world. My 16 year old boy is living in MD with a family who is homeschooling him.
As I write this I weep for the loss of my children. The loss of everything I knew for sure. My children were my life.
I went from being a happily married, homescooling mother of two children...to being a single woman with an empty nest.
It's been a huge change in a short amount of time.
I believe that the best years of my life are yet to come.
hugs to ya all!
Danita
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#123403 - 07/27/07 05:25 PM
Re: Life after divorce
[Re: Danita]
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Registered: 09/29/05
Posts: 217
Loc: Moscow
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Danita....Hi! We're all here, many of us rowing the same boat.... Losing the kids is the hardest thing of all after so many years and a lifetime of mothering. Wishing you find your way in a brave new world. I'm rooting for all of us.... We never saw all of this coming, did we?
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#123404 - 07/27/07 11:10 PM
Re: Life after divorce
[Re: mrs_madness]
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Thank you ladies -
The anchor holds.
danita
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