Jackie, I read this post and my heart went out to you. It may be the less they saw of you, the more they remembered the good in you and began to self reflect. Don't be a door mat, on the other hand, no one ever benefits from becoming bitter. Just know in your heart what is right and when visiting, if something is said that stings.....well, it's time to end the visit and go home. I feel, no matter what people admit, they "know" inside when they've been unreasonable. Your sudden decision to go home now and then might start to connect the dots for them.

Holly