MIL called me about 10 times today. we were supposed to go there for thanksgiving and she stewed over it all night and called this morning to tell me she couldn't do it. that doesn't bother me, i kind of expected as much.

trouble is, i can't have it here at this late notice. doing daycare for my granddaughter, there is no way i can do the cooking and cleaning by thursday. i was busy looking for another location when she called back to say she could do it, just not with as many people so some of the relatives would be on their own.

i told her that was ok, i would bring the turkey, dressing and gravy and pies if she could just cook some potatoes and veggies. a little while later she called me again to say that SIL would have us at her house since i was cooking the turkey...the calls went on and on like this till early afternoon.

MIL's memory is so bad, i got her to make a list of what she would bring - only things she could buy like pop and chips. then she called about 3 more times to get her list right.

in the first call this morning, she said she knew SIL and i were not speaking to each other. i told her it was the first i'd heard about that so who knows what sob story SIL told her. i have made it a point NOT to say anything about SIL to her because i'm so sick of playing their games. i speak to SIL, i just don't go out of my way to call her about anything anymore.

i told dh i would not play their games. i will make the d--n turkey and pies but i will not get dragged into the "let's make jo the big bad bitch" game that they like to play.

i will be glad when thanksgiving is over - that is what i will be most thankful for.