Hannelore, now is the time to talk to her about this. It's a good opportunity to let her hear your concerns. I think you should listen to yourself as opposed to your brother. He lives in the states, right? So maybe he hasn't seen her decline as you have.

Do you have a plan for the future? Does she want to do adult day care, retirement community, live with you, stay in her home forever...
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