turtle, it wouldn't be normal if you didn't investigate. Hey detective work is as normal for women, as burping is for men. Pry pry pry...and don't ever feel guilty about it...not for a minute! Your hubby forced you into this private eye work...it wasn't your choice.

Oh thanks so much Hannelore I feel better now about doing what I am doing. Thanks for making me feel better

Turtle,

This is a difficult situation to be in and it is hard to re-establish trust. Please be gentle with yourself but also give yourself time to heal before you take any actions. Be well.

Turtle,
The bastard is cheating in his mind and that can be just as devastating to you, his partner. Who knows when he will cheat for real, if he hasn't already?

My ex was a frequent visitor to the strip bars, we live in Vegas so sex runs rampant here. He use to say I'm just looking, not touching, yea right? How can any woman compete with these 18 to 20 year old naked, hard bodied sluts? I kicked him to the curb. Yours is cheating too and nyes become Sherlock Holmes if necessary, I did!!

If he can't (or won't) understand what he is doing is sooo wrong, then he needs to be set free, preferably in a vast of sulfuric acid. I hate cheaters, mental or otherwise, can you tell? Sorry for your problem, men are such junk yard dogs, some anyway!!!

What do you want, Turtle?

Ask him if he would like for his Mom or Dad to read the emails. Nuff said.

I want the husband I used to have but I don't what do I do? He still feels he didn't have an affair because he didn't do anything physical. I cannot get it through to him.