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OK, so many of you have found good relationships with younger men. So how DO you handle the retirement issue, assuming the relationship is long-term, when it's time 4 U 2 retire and he still has 15 years to go B4 he can collect his pension or social security???

If the guy was rich, he'd be able to retire when he wants, but the rest of them/us......how would/do you all handle this?



I wasn't under any impression there were alot of women here on this forum with much younger men as partners.

I am 48, he is 64. He retired ..hmm...time flies...at 58. He just simply had a reasonable pension because he was with his firm for 30 yrs. In his retirement, he is VERY active on the local cycling scene and leads in advocacy efforts on negotiating for more bike lanes, facilities, etc. I am not concerned too much about his health, because he is probably in top shape compared to many men his age. His doctor was impressed with his last checkup. This is a guy who has logged in over 100,000 kms. in past 15 years of cycling.

At this time, it works.. because a) I expect to work until mandatory retirement age. b) We enjoy our free together and travel...now. Not wait around for me to retire.

He has in the past has been gone for a few weeks, even few months on long-distance cycling trips, much of it, he does solo. While I slug away at my career. This is absolutely fine, since during times away, we communicate every day. Always a story to share with each other.

I do have my own interests, which right now a full-time job interferes.

It is great is have someone who is not as stressed as the full-time working partner, where the working partner can talk out issues and if the other person, is willing, offers thoughts and ideas....which he does.

Since I was single for a long time before I met him, the reality that most likely I will be alone when I get quite old, because most likely I will outlive him, doesn't bother me much. After all, I owned my own home before I met him...that's how little I expected to meet a guy (of my dreams) at that time.

OUr lives are probably made easier, because I don't wish to have children...which I know for a fact, it reduces pressures for him. (He already has 2 grown children.)

SO important for a woman to learn to enjoy/living by herself at times in her life. When the time comes, when we have no choice, we won't fall totally apart.

If one partner works vs. another one who has retired for awhile, there needs to be discussion at beginning how finances will work out during the relationship and when one partner outlives the other, particularily if there is a significant age difference.
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