Mara, look at this time as a gift for you and your mom. Have you read Tuesdays With Morrie or The Final Gift?

I highly recommend The Final Gift. A dear friend gave me that book when Mom was dying. All my sibs and I read it. It makes you aware of all the opportunites that are placed before you when you know someone is dying. It allows you to make the most of the situation. Sounds odd, but true!