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#117866 - 05/12/07 06:07 PM
Re: Celebrating Father's Day Without Him
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Robin, your tribute to your Dad is beautiful - gave me some powerful anticipation of what to do both for Mom on Sunday and for Dad in June. Dad was famous for his BBQ hamburgers - my brothers and I have spent the past seven years since he died trying to replicate the recipe, to no avail (but we had fun trying). That will be harder to do without Gary here (he was the most ardent fan of Dad's hamburgers and it was he and he alone who decided whether each batch of my BBQ hamburgers came close to Dad's) but your tribute has inspired me to continue the tradition of having pseudo-Dad's BBQ hamburgers this year, not only in honour of Dad but in honour of Gary from now on as well.
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#117872 - 05/16/07 12:03 PM
Re: Celebrating Father's Day Without Him
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I thought of Mom this mother's day , but mother is buried and hour away and did not get there to put flowers on her grave , but will get there this summer
Dad has been gone for 36years and it does get better , but still miss him so at times . I think sometimes they get further and further away from you when they have been gone so long . Just my therary on this .
Renee
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#117877 - 05/19/07 11:59 AM
Re: Celebrating Father's Day Without Him
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It's difficult right now because last year, this time, I was there caring for him. I just need to get through a couple more months and then I think I might be better able to heal.
Oh those are some of the most difficult moments to get through, thinking back to those times when our loved one was still alive..."this time last week we were doing this together" "this time a month ago he was able to do this" "this time last year he wasn't even sick". Those back-thoughts are unbearable for that first year or so.
It keeps hitting me in the oddest places and thoughts - yesterday I had to mail a parcel at the post office in the card shop. On my way out, I noticed a beautiful 2008 calendar and immediately thought, "Oh I have to tell Gary that that's the one I'd like for next Christmas" - Gary has been the calendar provider for everyone in the family for over 10 years now and used to spend a great deal of time and money getting just the right one for each person...he used to buy me two, a pretty one for the kitchen and a weird one for the bathroom. Did it ever hit hard that he'd never buy any of us a calendar again! I couldn't hold back the tears.
But instead of wallowing in the grief of that realization, I've decided that I'm going to go back to buy that calendar (using money that we received from Gary's estate) and wrap it up for myself for next Christmas, in memory of Gary...I just know that he would like me to do that in his name.
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#117878 - 05/19/07 01:05 PM
Re: Celebrating Father's Day Without Him
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I am always reading this post girls. I just wanted to say that I have you in my prayers.
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#117883 - 05/23/07 04:29 PM
Re: Celebrating Father's Day Without Him
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Oh JJ, my heart is with you today...I have NO DOUBT that your Daddy is very proud of you and of how much you help others in your day-to-day life. I don't know when you "fail sometimes" but I heartily believe that, for me personally, those perceived failures almost always lead to greater wisdom and therefore more light to radiate into others' lives. Your light shines bright - you sparkle up our lives here, and you've touched MY life in more ways than you'll ever know. So I KNOW that your Daddy is very proud and honoured by your life.
Today is Sacred Ground...
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#117885 - 05/23/07 10:04 PM
Re: Celebrating Father's Day Without Him
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Love you JJ...you are a special woman...and a tribute to your father...if you are indeed a chip off the old block...then he was truly a special man...I wish I could have known him.
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#117888 - 05/25/07 02:58 PM
Re: Celebrating Father's Day Without Him
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My apologies for overlooking this post JJ. Your Dad surely was blessed with a beautiful daughter.
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