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Originally posted by Thistle Cove Farm:
I have absolutely NO clue but I'd like to know.

As I've said before, my 91 year old mother in law lives with us and it's difficult. Very, very difficult. Not for her especially, but for Dave and I. She'll do these TOTALLY OUTRAGEOUS things and 30 seconds later forget and then wonder why we're upset with her.

How do you get someone to use enough toilet paper? (no, it's NOT enough that you take one square, rip it in half and then use half and save half)

How do you get someone to wash their hands? (you just wiped yourself and you HAVE to wash your hands!)

How do you get someone to bath...even twice a week?

How do you get someone to change their clothes even 2 or 3 times a week?

How do you get someone to stop, cease and quit hanging their underwear all over their bed posts, chair arms, etc.? (They were wet and needed to dry...the reason they were wet is because you peed yourself because you didn't feel like getting out of bed or the chair and get to the bathroom...)

How do you get someone to stop telling OUTRAGEOUS lies? (this woman will just make up stuff about people..."I heard she got a better job than her husband and now they are having problems" this said about someone she doesn't even know!)

I'm going crazy; wanna come along? I gotta warn you though...it's a short trip.
I hear you girl! I went through some pretty outrageous stuff with my grandmother. The last year or so, she wore the same stained clothes for days even sleeping in them and she'd sleep with the lights on and then she couldn't sleep and in the middle of the day she'd be sitting in her chair in her nightgown or slept-in-clothes sleeping with the TV on. She wouldn't bathe or wear ANY shoes except these chewed-up dress black shoes and mismatched sandals.

She got possessive of me especially hating it when I went anywhere at night and doubly so with my mother. I had to LIE about where I was going and how long I'd be. She really didn't know the passage of time.

I set boundaries even though I felt guilty. It was either that or go insane.