One of the names of a respite care is Faith in Action. They are all over the US. Check with the hosptal closest to you. I know you don't live close to one. Some Churches help out with this too. You could check this out too. They usually have a nurse in the church who knows about the program. I agree with JJ & Smile you really need this NOW.!!!!! Take it from those of us who know. The assissted living facilities most are great and will help you with this.
Maggie