No kidding! I only count now when I'm feeling stressed, which isn't often.

let him do the work hl or at lest give a discount lol
seriouslie i with mountain silences i valuable.....and its hard to learn to be comphortable with it if it comes along but even if its tense let it happen becouse in those times the stuff that someone else can say can be a true surprise...and they might not have said it any other time lol...

just rember all the normale rules of social interactting is out the window in those sessions....so let be what has to be, ermmm let be what is, ermmm just chill sistaaa lol.

Hmmm, ....... I'm practicing .......... silence.

I know business people who use silence in negotiations and it works. Someone will always get uncomfortable and start giving details they shouldn't.

If you're like me, it's hard to be quiet!

In my coaching practice, I find silence to be the most valuable tool -- and the hardest one for me to practice! I was always the one uncomfortable with silence, but I'm getting better at it! :-))

The latest Scoop;

Hubby and I are doing better. Got to remind him every once in a while that he has to get his act together, …but as a whole it is better.

At the marriage counseller Hubby went with a chip on his shoulder and was rather closed mouthed; …great attitude. But the counselor let him be that way, and then last five minutes they actually had a dialogue, where the counselor told Hubby how much I need him to help and support me, instead of making this whole care thing with my mother an additional burden. I was close to kissing Dr. Counselors feet….and I am not a foot person. Then I cried a little, and both men felt totally helpless… Then the counselor asked if we want to make another appointment, and Hubby said no…we don't need any more help, changes will be made.

Last week Hubby bought me a convertible. After our granddaughter leaves, in about 2 months, he wants us to take a romantic ride through Italy. No, I didn't ask if we can take my mother. (The trunk is too small)…just joshin ya all. Seeeee I'm getting better too.

It GREAT that you shared with us all and I am honoured to have listened.
Look forward to the trip and don't look back.

Mountaina sh

Hannelore, you made me laugh (I love the trunk joke). I'm glad things are looking up, though I know it can still be a long process, much of it "three steps forward, one step back".

I love that idea of a romantic trip (by convertible no less) through Italy. My hubby and I have been contemplating the same sort of trip, either to Italy or Austria sometime this year or next.

Keep us posted. And keep that sense of humour alive - it's a gift!

You're so cute and I'm so happy for you!