Oh, and thanks for the kind words. It's amazing what examples others set for us without us even realizing it. When my mom went through her treatments all we did was tend to her. We weren't thinking of learning life lessons, but we did!

Had she moaned and groaned her way through it, that is what I would have learned and that may have been how I got through my recent surgery. I'm thankful for her example!

Ahhh! Forgive me. I meant benign! I have heard the word malignant so much lately I used the wrong word. What a horrendous mistake!

The doctor thought is was benign and so did I. It was!

Smile, I'm so glad you caught that. So sorry! I am not a cancer survivor.

Dotsie
Thank heaven. I was worried. Be glad you're not a cancer survivor. It can be a lesson, but it also gives you something else to worry about. And who needs that?
smile

Lynn,
You are so right about the generation before us teaching us to die. I've been reading these posts and wanted to reply sooner.
My father enjoyed teaching the resident doctors about his disease. As we would leave the room so they could learn it was fun to watch them ask a question and his reply no matter how weak he
felt was always great. He had one of the first tubes in his chest so they could just put an IV in there instead of his tiny veins. Having been a biology teacher he enjoyed explaining away his body and how he felt. What he thought would cause something.
When I called the doctor to tell him he was in Hospice care you could hear the sadness in his voice.
My father was always kind, gentle and caring but he definitely was a teacher to the end.
There were many lessons learned as he was dying.
Maggie

Dotsie, Thank the Lord yours was only a slip of the tongue. I think Cancer is the scarfiest word and malignant is even worse, so much worse. I to believe there is a lesson in death, anyones death but our parents seem so wise even in death.

Dotsie so happy it wasn't malignent.
To the rest of you as I read through the posts I find myself saying a little prayer for each one of you. Just can't respond to them all yet.
Hope you all are doing a little bit better.
Maggie