My son was born in Baltimore to Korean birthparents. He knows he is adopted and sometimes he would rather have the biological connection to me. But we move on each day providing more information or reinforcing how our family came together.

I never had the opportunity to meet his birthparents. I wanted to but they were very distraught over not being able to raise their son and jsut wanted or needed to walk away. I understand that but would have liked to met them.

When the time comes, I will help my sone find his birthparents if he chooses. Parts of me hope he does and parts hope he doesn't. This is a very important subject to our family and I really need to hear from adult apotees or birthparents.

Culture is another difficult issue. I teach my son he is American. Which he is but I also try to relate some of his heritage into normal life. The same as my family did since we are Irish/German.

I know many families who organize and I think go overboard on the whole heritage thing. Everytime I turn around their is another Korean cultural event to attend. My son would rather go to the train museum and he doesn't care the race of the kids that go with him. As parents there is a fine line there that we need to fulfill our kids needs but also need to know when to back off.

I, too, would love to hear more views on adoption. I hope one day to visit Korea with my son even though he was not born there just to see what it looks like. We went to the Grand Canyon so why not? It's all about learning. What do you think?