My dad would never go for having anyone come in to help other than family. He is so tight with his money that he once saved dead grasshoppers in the refrigerator for a year to use as fishbait rather than throw away the unused ones. I have wanted to get my Mom online for several years, and have told them we could talk every day instead of on a weekly basis. But he won't let my mom spend the money for internet service...even if I offer to pay a year's service, he doesn't want her on the computer all day, so he won't allow it. He can be rather domineering at times.
Today we went to dinner at a restaurant and my brother and sister split the cost of my parents' meal so they wouldn't have to pay for it. It was a celebration for my dad's 80th birthday, which was last Wednesday.
I worked in a nursing home for 12 1/2 years, so I am aware of a lot of the resources available, but as I said, if they cost money, my dad won't stand for it. So it falls back into my brother's and my hands. My mom also says she never wants to leave the farm, so we'll just have to pray and check on them as much as possible.