My husband called his DIL but she would not answer the phone. She called her husband (my husbands son) and had him call my husband. They talked and his son agrees with us and says Michelle is very emotional about everything right now (8 months pregnant) and he's going to tell his mother where she stands in this. Thankfully, my husband was able to reach his son and get his son to understand how he feels about his ex-wife. Whether Michelle understands or not, she needs to respect our wishes not to have the ex at our family gatherings. We think she will come around and once she gets to the shower and sees how lovely everything is she'll forget about being so emotional about something that doens't really matter anymore. She's got a lot of growing up to do.